ISLAM IS OUR WAY
Marriage is a union between a man and a woman under the commitment and mutual consent to live together according to the teachings of his fe.En Islam given to family involvement as advisors when a person looking for a life partner . And while the first contacts are usually made by the parents , the basic condition for the free consent of the intending spouses must be respected.
The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh ) suggest that the choice of the spouses is based on chastity , decency and religiosidad.Dijo (pbuh ) : "Do not 're married for beauty because maybe this is you then the cause of moral decline , nor done through wealth because then maybe this is the cause of disobedience. . Marry those who come from religious families " 1Y he ( pbuh) : " A woman is married for four reasons : her wealth, her lineage , her beauty and her religion. Desposad religious , as this will give greater security to the future of your home. " 22.
Marriage is an inborn inclination in human beings . Allah ( swt ) , I think the human being with the need for a partner to inspire love and affection and contain it in time of concern and tristeza.Allah ( swt ) says: "And among His signs is that He created spouses from among yourselves to find repose in them , and you put between you love and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for those who reflect . ( The Romans 30: 21)
Man feels the need to care for the companion , the home and raising children . Likewise , a woman needs a man to live with her , protect her and accompany . Reported Anas (ra) that three men , learning was applied when the Prophet (pbuh ) in worship, apparently found little , and exclaimed : " If the Prophet that have been forgiven all his sins worships Allah ( swt ) of Thus, we should do even more . " Then one of them said : "Verily, I remain praying every night and will not sleep ." Said another : " I will fast all the days of my life." And the third said : "Verily I turn from women and not ever marry me ." On hearing this the Messenger of Allah ( PBUH) said: "Verily, I am more pious than you, yet fast some days and not others, prayer during the night but also part of her sleep , and I marry . Know that he who turns away from my Sunnah is not of us . " This hadeeth indicates that celibacy and monastic life are rejected because clearly contradict the nature of human beings .
The Islamic legal marriage must meet the following characteristics:
a) Good choice : It is the right of everyone to freely choose who is to be her life partner . Islam advises Muslims that the key factor of choice is the moral and religious conduct. The Prophet of God, peace and blessings of God be upon him said : "If you come (to request the hand) someone that you like their religion moral ( religious behavior ), and must marry him . If you do not it will be a great disgrace and corruption. " He said : "marriage with a woman I was looking for four qualities : its wealth, beauty , nobility and religion. Choose to have better moral and religious behavior and be happy . " He said . "A black slave is a believer better .. " When a man has learned to choose either to his companion, his married life will be full of love and harmony into your home will be peace and happiness and children, from his marriage , will bring the happiness to parents. So good choice includes good moral . When a woman chooses a man of moral deviant , will be unhappy with it, just as when a man chooses a woman of misconduct, will be unhappy with it at home and reign discord and unhappiness.
b ) Acceptance willingly : that man may choose a good woman and ask her out to the family , which gladly accepted but without her consent . This is against Islamic law as the spouse must meet the requirements for full acceptance by both parties and is absolutely prohibited to force any of them to perform the marriage .
c ) Freedom to place conditions in the marriage contract : Approval at marriage should be mutual by the parties. This approval should include all the conditions stipulated by both ( within the Islamic framework ) . For example, the wife is entitled to stipulate in the marriage contract, provided that her husband is nothing more than marry her during their marriage if he knows he can not bear the presence of another woman to share your home.
d ) No limit marriage to a certain time : For the purpose of marriage is not gratify the passions and enjoy the woman for a certain time , and that God has legislated as a union for life , as if I would have divorced for a casual affair outside the natural course of the marriage.
e) The authority of the family belongs to the man in the tasks of life, God has enabled man and a woman , so they can perform their duties each within their field giving the man in normal cases the authority supreme family .
f ) mutual respect and good treatment : One of the mandates of Islam within the family context . All matters arising within the family should be treated with sincerity and its members including obedience , always based on God's commands to be standard in the family and in life .
«AL-JITBAH» (Request for hand)
It is like the prologue of marriage. God Most High - legislated it to be made before the marriage contract and could meet the contrayentes.Debe be free from any divine prohibition . For example : That one of the two or both are at this time another engagement with another banned persona.Está be alone without the presence of a relative. The groom can only see the face and hands of bride .
Islam forbids the Muslim to marry a non-Muslim one either adept Book or another, because: When the husband does not believe in Islam , their own religious conviction does not require you to respect the beliefs of women, and as a result and being the head of household , you can force the woman to conduct contrary to their Islamic or other words belief , how could have peace and quiet in a household in which the householder does not believe in the religion of their wife, nor respects his Prophet , even though she believes in the original book of her husband and respects all prophets God most high sea- states in the Glorious Qur'an : " the envoy believes in what was revealed by God and believers. Everyone believes in God, his angels , his books and his messengers . " We do not make any distinction between any of His Messengers " and they say: "We hear and obey ! Only crave your indulgence , our God , and to You is the return ! '. ( Sura 2, verse 285).
MAHR - MARRIAGE PORTION
Islam prescribed that the husband give his wife's dowry, belonging only to her, without any right on that one family dowry. This is as a social symbol that leads to love and friendship strengthens. The Prophet of God, peace be upon him-said. "Make yourselves that ye love" God Most High is-he says in the Holy Quran: "Give women spontaneously, talents, and if it is the will of them, grant you part, enjoy it with good profit '.4 Islam places no limits on dowry and leaves it to the choice of the wife. This feat can be both material and non-material. Exaggeration by women goes against religion because it makes this an obstacle for man with few recursos.Se can give in advance or deferred, or to defer part and another, always considering this part deferred as a loan from the wife to her husband.
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM
DIVORCE
Due to the difference in character and temperament of humans, sometimes can occur in the strong household discord , which give rise to arguments and disputes without any solution. Hence Islam, he established the system of divorce which is most detestable before God. The Prophet of God, peace and blessings be upon him said: "The most detestable, the lawful before God is divorce ." God legislated divorce temporary or permanent depending on the case , allowing each one to find a new partner I can find peace, happiness and amor. En nations that divorce is not allowed can see that the problems that arise marriage will undermine society. This makes it disappears love and peace, and not be allowed to divorce in this case , looking for illegal ways to give them another partner happiness and love that are in their own home.
Islam has several paths to where discord reigns in the home because it considers the marriage bond as a sacred union that should not get any disagreement. God reveals to us in the Holy Qur'an , the importance of this union : ... Having received them a solemn promise to you "( Sura 4, verse 21). So in the event of any marital discord , Islam ordered the following:
a) To re-skill honestly everyone on their problems , thinking about the future of their children because they are both heads of household . The Prophet of God, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said : "The man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for all its members. The woman is the shepherd in her husband's house and is responsible for its members'. He also said : "All the sons of Adam may make mistakes, and the best are the unrepentant wrong ." Islam demands that both spouses are mutually supporting and disguise , to the people , the absence of his partner. God is very high , the Holy Qur'an says : " ... live with them kindly ; For if ye hate despreciarais could be that one thing to which God has endowed with many virtues. " ( Sura 4, verse 19)
There are many marriages that even after a long time not enough is known, hence the order to both spouses Islam tolerated each other and avoid potential disagreements that may arise. Someone may raise this question: Why is not there a time before the marriage so that the couple can know enough and if your characters are compatible, and make the marriage otherwise go their way? The answer to this question is easy: "The human being is too weak to their own passions and desires." "... For man was created weak." ( Sura 4, verse 28) For all this and many other things , Islam strictly forbids this type of premarital sex and only allows for the wedding before the couple knows but in the presence of a relative ( mahram ) and to the extent permitted by Islam ; without capping the number of times needed to be known.
b ) When the discords and disagreements go to the extent that spouses can not be supported and must be separated , Islam calls for involving family members of both party selecting one representative each .
c ) If the family could not reconcile because each remains locked in his idea and still not be tolerated , Islam permits in this case, the divorce in the first stage , but the woman has to stay home for three months ' Al- lddah » estándole forbidden to approach her husband during this period, but it must , however , keep it . This time is sufficient for everyone to reconsider his problem and is an opportunity for reconciliation , if desean.En this first step ( first TALQAH ) the husband can return to his wife , without having to do a new marriage contract or witnesses, no dowry enough that he would manifest his wife.
d ) If the preset time has ended "Al - Iddah " and the husband had not returned to his wife , then the divorce will take place and in this case , Islam does not allow the husband to his wife again , without first conducting a new marriage contract, witnesses and dowry. If she does not want to rejoin her former husband, you can do so freely and can marry another if desired. If reconciled with a new contract and dowry and discord begins again , Islam asks them to support and intervene to reconcile the family , but if again persist in divorce, then comes the "second Talqah ' second stage in which women remain at home to Al- lddah and the husband can not join it , without making a new marriage contract before she be entitled to accept or reject .
e) Should she accept her husband back after making a new marriage contract and again enter discord and disagreement , Islam advises reconciled again and again that the family involved , but if you continue to persist in the idea of divorce, this will take place " on the 3rd . Talqah "after which they are forbidden to join back into marriage without being married to another woman and being divorced or widowed it ( the second husband). In this case you can return to first husband if desired. Islam does not allow to play with the divorce and the woman is not an object with which the man plays according to your desire .
We have seen in the previous steps the steps you take Islam to benefit the two and solve their problems , because they are interested in and care about marriage because from the beginning God made the sacred.
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